Happiness Can Comes Free

Recently over a friend gathering session, we discussed the topic on happiness. There were few heated arguments on the happiness index of Singaporean, which I will not cover in this post.

Rather, pertaining to pursuing happiness, it just bewildered me that when has it became so complex, that it seemed that you might need a PhD to understand it.

What do you see from this photo? A lonely old man or a floor of happiness?

What do you see from this photo? A lonely old man or a walkway full of happiness?

Your definition of happiness?

What makes you happy?

I guess we are so obsessed over chasing materialistic benefits that the answers I got from people were usually linked to some sorts of monetary stuff such as to own a house, a car, having lots of cash in banks, etc. Some others, on the other hand, are less materialistic. They just wanted emotional benefits, such as getting married, having kids and a group of close friends, etc.

However, if you take a step back and look at these answers, you will realised that they actually depend on something for happiness. The problem here is that what if the thing you depend on for happiness is no longer with you? People around you will come and go, marriage can fail and fortunes you made can be lost in a day.  This kind of happiness is just so fragile.

So you might ask again, so can I find true happiness that last?

In my opinion

In my humble opinion, my answer to happiness is that you will need to just unlock your mind and programmed it to receive happiness in the simplest form! Although you could argue that said is easier than done, but do you still remember during the times when you were still young, how easily you can feel happiness and to let your emotions out? We were easily amused, laughed at the ‘lamest’ joke, entertained by the simplest things in life. How can we possible able to do it when we were just a kid yet as a matured adult we can’t?

It is when you regain the skill of appreciating simple thing in life that happiness comes.

Some suggestions are:

1. Learn to live in present, do not wait for your definition of happiness to happen. No more ‘if’ and ‘unless.’ The keyword is now.  

2. Learn to appreciate the little things you have in life. Taking stock of what you have now and be grateful you have them!

3. Learn to love yourself more. Taking good care of your health and well-being.

4. Learn to choose to see the good and not the bad in all things. Yes, is a matter of choice. Go ahead and choose happiness and you get it.

A simple example

Lately Singapore is experiencing a flower blooming season. This is believe to be triggered by the recent dry spell, resulted in mass flowering on trees including the Angsana plant that you see from the picture at the top of this post.

How can you derive happiness from this? Just take a look at how simple it is for kids to feel happy in the video below:

Conclusion

Sometimes the happiness you can get, comes in the simplest form and best of all, is for free. When we were born, we were welcome to this world with the joy of our parents. Therefore, it should be right to mention that we are born to be happy.

We should always keep in mind that true happiness is not far-fetched goal, and in fact, it all begin with ourselves – our mindset.

Cheers~ 🙂

Nothing can bring you happiness but yourself – Ralph Waldo Emerson

A Poor Man Asked the Buddha

15 celebration days of Chinese New Year 2014 marked its end yesterday on 14 Feb 2014 which coincides with Valentine’s day. Throughout the 15 days, we have been greeting people with wishes such as having good health, wealth and youth in this year of horse. Among all these wishes that I received,  I was particularly impressed by one wish that I was greeted by one speaker in a seminar. He wished us in the coming year to enjoy a year of abundance.

You might think hey what’s so special about having abundance? Isn’t it related to wealth again? But think again. Do we always need to associate  abundance with only wealth? What resonated with me is the reason when the speaker further explained himself that he always love to wish people having abundance because it does not solely refer to attaining wealth, but also having wisdom and happiness. This is so much so important that this seminar happens to be an investment seminar. It just questioned our fundamental reason for investing again, what is our investment goal? Not everyone aim to become a multi-millionaire like Warren Buffet. The reason you invest could perhaps you invest for the fun, or you enjoy acquiring new knowledge and investing is one of the important lesson that everyone should learn. Most people perhaps invest so as to achieve financial freedom hence to have more freedom making choices in life such as an early retirement to have more time for the things/people you value the most.

No matter what your reason, I do not think we should always centred to wealth. Look broader and perhaps we will understand life better. To end off this post, I would like to share with you an interesting reading I came across a few days ago.

Cheers~

Source: The ManKind Project http://www.mankindproject.org

Source: The ManKind Project http://www.mankindproject.org

 A poor man asked the Buddha, “Why am I so poor?”

The Buddha said, “you do not learn to give.”

So the poor man said, “If I’m not having anything?”

Buddha said: “You have a few things,

The Face: which can give a smile;

Mouth: you can praise or comfort others;

The Heart: it can open up to others;

Eyes: who can look the other with the eyes of goodness;

Body: which can be used to help others.”

So, actually we are not poor at all, poverty of spirit is the real poverty.

ps: you can read about what I feel to be a sequel to this post here.

Cheers~ 🙂