This entry I am going to talk about being able to live freely from others’ emotions, and it is not an easy task. As you would have heard “no man is an island”, therefore every day we have to face our family, friends, colleagues and fellow commuters, inevitably we will get affected by what is going on around us.
With the occurrence of train breaking down higher than the probability of rain, can you recall the last train (SMRT) breakdown incident, and think about how did you get affected by the situation? Frustrated? Worry about running late from work? To make the matter worst, did the anger churning out from the rest of commuters add fuel to the burning fire in you. You started to realise people around start to frown, fight and get into an argument with each other, and there goes your ‘Good Morning’ of the day.
In our work, we will get into disagreements with fellow colleagues and superiors at times. However, engaging in productive debating might lead to higher efficiency and effectiveness in operations but getting too emotional will bring no good to anyone, including your organisation.
So how can we break freely from getting affected by others? Especially situation that brews negative emotion that you do not wish to get yourself involved? The answer might be to just tune your own thinking to change your perception to your thoughts. Below is a good story that I found in the internet to illustrate my point:
Once, Buddha was walking through a village with his students, where the opponents of Buddhism lived. The people of the village surrounded Buddha and his students and started insulting them. In respond, the students also started rising up and wanted to get back at them, but the presence of Buddha calmed them down. The words of Buddha confused not only the students but also the villagers.
He turned to his students and said:
You disappointed me. These people are doing their thing. They are angry. They think that I am an enemy of their religion and their moral believes. These people are insulting me and it’s obvious. But why are you angry? Why did you let these people manipulate you? Now you depend from them, therefore you’re not free.
The people from the village were completely at loss and asked:
But we were insulting you, why aren’t you mad at us?
You are free people, and what you did – is your business. I am also a free person and a master of my own actions, which is why I have my own right not to react to manipulation and be free from anger.
Hence the next time you meet with a difficult situation or people, do remember that you are a free person and you have the prerogative to think for yourself. Whether to get frustrated or not, is up to your own mind, how do you want to perceive the situation.
Last but not least, I would like to share an interesting YouTube video with you. Hopefully, it will change your mind if you are to get caught up with another train breakdown incident.