Today I witnessed a conversation between my boss and a colleague. The topic is about expectation vs reality. It really makes a lot of sense to me and I have the urge to share with you readers.
Everyone, including your boss, parents, spouse and friends will have certain expectation from you. Having expectation is not a bad thing. In fact, if you take it positively, people will only have high expectation of you when they have high regard of you. But what if the expectation from a someone is too much to take or on the other hand, you are disappointed with someone who never meet with your expectation?
I think one particular sentence from her just strike hard into me, “People are born differently, with different strength and weaknesses. We have to accommodate the fall short of one another.”
Let’s face the fact, we are living in an imperfect world. I agreed with her that we will be too much if we ask for the ultimate perfection from someone, it is impossible. Even we can blame others for their mistakes, we must always be conscious that we are no better than the person we are blaming. We also cannot expect everyone to be just like us, as we have the tendency to place ourself on a perch. Everyone will have their working style and thinking. That’s what make us human, aren’t we?
So, in my opinion, there is no need to please everyone or expect everyone to please you, it is not possible. There bound to be friction, expectation gap and mis-alighnment of goals at some point of time. These gaps if to be treated positively, are actually a good tool to spur us and the team onto greater heights. We shouldn’t put all blame onto ourself or others.
The key lesson here is communication. We have to communicate to calibrate to each other’s expectation and needs. If you want or need to work in a team, then you will have to digest this adage:
If You Want To Go Fast, Go Alone. If You Want To Go Far, Go Together